It is important that you feel comfortable with me as your Counsellor, otherwise you will not gain the most from your sessions. Therefore, when you contact me for the first time, I will offer you a Consultation, during which you will be able to ask me any questions you may have and I can assess how to best help you.
If you are coming to me for Couple Counselling the dynamic is different. My aim is to respect each of your points of view. We will also discuss boundaries to be set between you, in order that you both feel safe to say how you feel.
I will ask you to arrive at the allocated time and, if early, to wait in your car. This is so that I can maintain your confidentiality and that of others that I may be seeing before you. We will meet in a private room on the side of my house, which I hope you will find a safe space for you to explore what is happening in your life.
At the end of the Consultation, I will ask you if you would like to begin Counselling. You will be under no obligation to book further sessions but, if you would like to do so, these will be for one hour and booked on a weekly/fortnightly basis. You are in charge of how many sessions you have and we will regularly assess your progress together, in order to ensure you are receiving the very best of help.
Within our counselling relationship, I will see you as a unique individual and I will endeavour not to form an opinion as to what kind of person you are or judge you in any way. My interest is in helping you understand yourself and explore how your life can be satisfying, by taking responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
If you change anything at all about yourself it will be because you want to, not because I think you ought to.
We will spend most of our time together talking, but it won't be like the conversations you are used to. You will be in charge of the 'agenda', and I will do my best to understand what you want to achieve and help you to do so. You may find that there are times when you don't really know what to say or you might want to think about something before you say the words. You might even feel like saying nothing for a while which is fine by me. I will be happy to wait until you are ready to talk.
I will try to understand how you are experiencing your world and what is happening to you. Consequently, I will often reflect back what I have understood you to be saying and how you might be feeling. You will then have an opportunity to check on how well I understood you.